Marriage & Family as God Intended

FamilyI believe there is a God, and He’s the Creator of the universe. He’s the God of the Bible whom the Jews & Christians recognize as opposed to Allah or Buddha or some other god worshiped in other religions.

This country was founded with the understanding that the God of the Bible was the true God, and they based their decisions in forming this country on that understanding. Our Declaration of Independence even recognizes the “Creator” and the “inalienable rights of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” came from Him. This is what I believe is meant by America being founded as a Judeo-Christian nation.

All over the various memorials & monuments in our nation’s capitol as well as federal buildings you’ll find references to this same God. There is no doubt that “God” is very much a part of our country’s heritage, despite the desire of some to stomp his name out of the public square.

God declares homosexual activity sin. He states clearly in the Bible that it is wrong for a man to lie with a man as he would with a woman. What happened to Sodom & Gomorrah (being wiped off the face of the planet) was a result of sexual sin and following after other gods. The word “sodomy” comes from the name “Sodom”. Despite the fact that God clearly states sodomy to be sin, our culture has embraced that act as permissible.

Please understand, I am not attacking those who consider themselves homosexual and I don’t believe God despises those folks either. It’s the behavior that is wrong. God created man and woman in such a fashion that they would “fit” together and pro-create, bringing forth new life. It’s truly fascinating when you stop and think about it. We were given such an awesome power and responsibility to re-generate and populate the Earth.

The idea of a man performing a sexual act with another man goes totally against God’s plan for creation…just like a human performing a sexual act with an animal is detestable, so is same-sex human relations. It’s not what God intended.

Now the idea of a man and woman performing sexual acts outside of marriage also goes against what God intended. God’s plan is for a man and woman to come together in marriage…for life. His plan was for them to have children. By His design a child was to have both a mother and a father.

Somewhere along the line though, we decided to step out of God’s plan…to do the very things he told us not to do. Well, with every choice we make, there’s a consequence. When we make good choices, we enjoy good consequences. When we make bad choices, we suffer bad consequences.

When we buy a product such as a toaster and follow the manufacturer’s instructions performing the tasks the appliance was created to do, such as making toast, all goes well. But when we decide to make a smoothie using a toaster, going totally against what the manufacturer had in mind in making that product, the results are disastrous.

That’s what has happened to us. We as a human race have defied our Creator’s plan for us and wonder why everything is such a mess.

Now, I’m not saying that every man and every woman has to marry, and I’m not saying that every married couple has to have children. Certainly you can choose not to and all is well. The problem is we have embraced the idea that it is okay to have “marital relations” (sexual intercourse) outside the bounds of marriage between a man and a woman, and then we don’t want to be held accountable for the consequences of those actions.

One consequence of sexual intercourse is conceiving a child. Instead of facing up to that consequence when we don’t want or like it and allowing that baby to live, we have convinced ourselves it is okay to just snuff the child’s life out — that somehow we can “erase” the consequence of our actions. But what we’re actually doing is creating another consequence by performing a second action.

While we may envision what having a child can mean for us as women as well as what it could mean for the child and feel we are justified in making a decision about whether or not to kill that baby, we seldom consider the consequence for killing our own children. And I can assure you, the folks who are looking at us, women in crisis, with dollar signs in their eyes when we start considering the alternative of abortion, they are not giving us the full low-down on the consequences of that procedure. In all honesty, they really can’t…nobody can. But you ask a woman who has had an abortion, and well, it’s very telling. Feelings of remorse and guilt, shame and brokenness, and only God knows what else. But then there’s the consequence of the life snuffed out. He/she could have been the one that would have discovered the cure for cancer or performed some other monumental task or even a series of small tasks that would have altered the future of mankind.

Think of “It’s a Wonderful Life” and how the impact of George Bailey’s life influenced all of those around him when he was given the gift of seeing what the world would have been like had he never been born. If you’ve never seen that movie, I highly recommend it!

So now, here we are…you and I might never consider killing our babies despite whatever negative consequence might result in having these children, but what about our family members? our friends? our co-workers? our neighbors? our fellow Americans?

Is it “right” for anyone to kill babies? If so, then why do we bother having a law forbidding murder? If we as Americans have the right to kill babies at two months in utero, or 5 months in utero, or 8 months in utero, or leave them to die after being born alive as a result of a botched abortion (all because we either see how their life is going to affect us or we’ve lost hope in their future), then why not give us the right to kill them at 3 months old (when we are sleep deprived), or 9 months old (when we’re suffering from post-partum depression), or 2 years old (when we’re stressed out by their defiance), or 12 years old (when they frustrate the heck out of us by their apparent lack of common sense), or 15 years old (when it’s obvious that they’re never going to amount to anything good)?

Do you see my point? Killing babies is wrong no matter how we try to justify it. Many a person has risen above his/her horrible childhood experiences to live incredibly victorious lives. Yes, some kids end up in lousy households, raised by incompetent parents or living in atrocious circumstances, but the answer is not “kill them so they won’t suffer”. If we are really concerned about the outcome of these “unwanted” children, then we should work to make their lives better, not annihilate them before birth.

As for legally redefining marriage to include anything other than one man and one woman, that would totally destroy our country. I’m not saying two people of the same sex cannot love each other. I’m not saying they cannot enjoy the same right to life, liberty and pursuit of happiness. Of course, they can. If they want to live together, then that’s their prerogitive. If they want to buy property together or obtain medical insurance, that’s completely lawful. But to say they should experience the same “family” benefits as those who are married or to equate themselves with a traditional marriage is not right. God certainly opposes the idea.

I feel it is necessary for laws to be passed in this country to protect life and marriage in order to save our society from ruin. We as a nation have already slaughtered more babies since the Supreme Court Roe v. Wade decision than all the lives lost in every war ever fought in America since our nation’s inception. That’s staggering.

We have already ripped apart the fabric of our society with rampant divorce and children born out of wedlock…single-parent families struggling to make things work, teenage pregnancies, runaway children, etc. We need to restore this nation to what God intended for His creation. Men and women committed in marriage for life, having children and teaching them to revere God. When we work in conjunction with God’s plan, we enjoy the benefits of a healthy family.

I believe our country needs to recognize and revere God once again. I pray we will.

For more information on marriage and family, I recommend checking out Focus on the Family. For more on the sanctity of life, check out the National Right to Life.

2 thoughts on “Marriage & Family as God Intended

  1. Texo

    “This country was founded with the understanding that the God of the Bible was the true God, and they based their decisions in forming this country on that understanding. Our Declaration”

    Hi Carrie,

    I know you will check this all out so I am going to try and keep it short.

    I don’t think I can agree with you above comment. It in fact says and of “Nature’s God”

    What does “Nature’s God” mean to these men in that time frame?

    Now Google that and read from a sound source and you will I hope begin to see why we truly have the seperation of Church and State.

    I do not wish to place my thoughts onto you so I will stop by just pointing you at the below likk etc.

    Why, see this link and look at the actual record. In case you are busy here it his.

    IN CONGRESS, July 4, 1776.

    The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,

    “When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.”


  2. Carrie Wigal Post author

    Hi Tex, I’m not sure I understand where you are going with this. I just read this article about Laws of Nature and Nature’s God. Which god are they referring to if not the God of the Bible. I believe it was understood that it was the God of Genesis who created the world and mankind. He is nature’s God.

    You said you disagreed with my statement…do you believe this Nature’s God is someone else (i.e. Allah or Buddah)?

    You mentioned “separation of Church and State”…please go on…


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