Category Archives: Family

Walking in the Creator’s Ways

For a while now I have been yearning to walk in the ways our Creator intended us to live — to live more naturally.

The Creator and His Ways

I believe the Creator made:

  • the Light, which He separated from the Darkness,
  • the Heavens above our head to include the Sun, Moon and Stars, and Winged Fowl to fly in the face of it,
  • the Land beneath our feet to include Grass, Seed-bearing Plants and Fruit-bearing Trees and Land-based Animals under the care of Mankind to feed off of it, and
  • the Seas that surround us to include a variety of Living Creatures.

I believe the Creator made mankind from the dust of the land with the intention that his life would continue without end.

Man was tasked to be fruitful and multiply, to fill the land and subdue it, and to rule over the fish of the seas, the fowl of the heavens and all living things that moves upon the land, and to eat of the produce of the land.

However, as a result of man’s disobedience to his Creator’s instruction, all mankind was sentenced death, to return to the dust of the land from which he was made.

While I also believe there was a separation that took place between mankind and our Creator as a result of that disobedience, the ways of how we were created to function remained the same.  Continue reading

Walking with Dad

I lived in Rockaway, New Jersey, a suburban community for most of my upbringing, from the age of 9 to 27, with a 4-year stint away at college. We lived on top of a hill, on a 1/3 acre lot. It became a common practice to go for walks around the block with my Dad after dinner. Sometimes we’d just walk around the immediate block once, sometimes twice and sometimes we’d walk all the way down to the bottom of the hill and back up again.

What I enjoyed most with these walks was having the chance to talk freely about anything on my heart, and my Dad would listen. He’d share his thoughts as well, but for the most part, I recall being the one sharing mine.

This pastime had a profound impact on my life. I felt the most loved at these times. I felt heard. I felt valued.

I don’t know if my Dad felt loved in this same way of being heard or if he felt loved by being spoken to so freely. I imagine both were true. However, I do know he rarely shut me down, and he always seemed eager to hear my thoughts. And as a result, I always felt welcome to share with him anything and everything.

This regular heart-inspired exchange modeled for me a relationship I share with my heavenly Father. Through my Dad I learned that I matter to Abba, my heavenly Father, that the passions of my heart mean something, and that there is an intrinsic value to my being. My Dad taught me the love of the Father in heaven.

Looking back over my adult years, it’s so easy to see the similarities between my father and I…the similar path we have taken.

  • We shared a passion for the One who made us and His Word. He taught me to read daily and to test everything in Scripture. 
  • We worked together in business.  He mentored me and groomed me in entrepreneurship.
  • We shared in political engagement. He taught me to speak out in public, and to engage in the community around me. He taught me to promote the values I hold through both my words and deeds.
  • We shared in writing our thoughts down. He taught me to take what’s inside my heart and mind and put it in a format where others can get to know what makes me tick.

These shared experiences demonstrate to me that when we walk with our heavenly Father in loving devotion, His ways become our ways. I feel so incredibly blessed to have had this relationship here on earth.

Why We No Longer Attend FBC

I’m finding that I might have made a mistake in not explaining our departure from church. I just spoke with someone who attended the same church we did for years, and they didn’t know why we left. She was surprised to hear that we were asked to leave.

Let me first explain, my reason for sharing this now is simply to inform folks of where our heart has been and is today concerning our fellowship with those whom we attended church for over three years.

When we first started attending this particular church, we were looking for a church close to home that was Biblically-based and allowed for the move of the Holy Spirit. The first day we attended, we felt right at home with the praise & worship, and we liked the fact that the message was centered on Scripture.

We also felt very welcome by the members we met that day. We were invited back to a Wednesday night meal, and we went. At the time I was pregnant and had two small children and a preteen, and clearly this church welcomed children.

We decided right away this is where we would remain. We became involved immediately. About a year later we decided to formally join as members, which was a shock to most people because so many thought we were members already.

We did not take our commitment to membership lightly…in fact, we never imagined not being there any longer. Continue reading

What Being a Blended Family Has Taught Me

I have a blended family. My husband has a child from a previous relationship whom we’ve raised together for the past ten years, and we have three children of our own. God used my personal family situation to teach me a lesson this year about the Family of God.

But first some history…

You see, in many Christian circles there is an understanding that there are two sets of rules for the people of God…one for the Jews and another for the Gentiles. And this is what was taught to me, sort of, indirectly. For example, I’ve asked in the past why we didn’t keep the Sabbath or the Passover, and I was told because these were Jewish days. As Christians we go to church on Sunday and celebrate Easter.

Although I was confused about a great many things, I simply accepted that answer…until this past year, that is.

This is what I used to think…. Continue reading

Grassroots Conservatives: Turning Up the Volume

Turn Up the VolumeIt looks like it’s time for me to get back into the fray here concerning local, state and federal politics. There is just too much at stake to stay quiet and passive any longer.

If you are pleased as punch at the way the Obama/Pelosi/Reid Political Machine is continuing to steer our country into a Socialist state…at an alarming rate, then this blog is not for you.

If you are thrilled to your toes with the RINOs (Republicans in Name Only) bashing the Conservative Base in the Republican Party or the Liberal Media casting Christians as criminals, then hit the back button at the top of your screen. You’re not going to like it here.

And if you are tickled pink over the trillions of dollars being spent and closed-door decisions being made without giving ear to the public outcry, then you’ll have to find your kicks & giggles elsewhere. Because…

I’m not playing “Mrs. Passive Polly” any longer. I refuse to play the political game; I stand on principles, and I have a spine. I don’t claim to be perfect, but I claim to be genuine. I care about this country. I care about this state and this community. I care about my family. And believe it or not, I care about you…personally.

So be forewarned…it’s going to get a little uncomfortable for the squishy conservatives, the liberal left and the professional politicians. The lukewarm are going to be challenged and the Enemy is going to get mad. For those Grassroots Conservatives who are like-minded…pull up a keyboard, join the conversation and let’s get loud. We’ve got a country to save, and too many folks are going to hell in a hand-basket.

I’m determined to do my part, how about you?

Charlottesville, We Surround Them

Unite or DieDo you watch the direction that America is being taken in and feel powerless to stop it?

Do you believe that your voice isn’t loud enough to be heard above the noise anymore?

Do you read the headlines everyday and feel an empty pit in your stomach…as if you’re completely alone?

If so, then you’ve fallen for the Wizard of Oz lie. While the voices you hear in the distance may sound intimidating, as if they surround us from all sides—the reality is very different. Once you pull the curtain away you realize that there are only a few people pressing the buttons, and their voices are weak. The truth is that they don’t surround us at all.
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We surround them.

So, how do we show America what’s really behind the curtain? Below are nine simple principles. If you believe in at least seven of them, then we have something in common. I urge you to read the instructions at the end for how to help make your voice heard.

Twelve Values

* Honesty
* Reverence
* Hope
* Thrift
* Humility
* Charity
* Sincerity
* Moderation
* Hard Work
* Courage
* Personal Responsibility
* Friendship

The Nine Principles

1. America is good.

2. I believe in God and He is the Center of my Life.

3. I must always try to be a more honest person than I was yesterday.

4. The family is sacred. My spouse and I are the ultimate authority, not the government.

5. If you break the law you pay the penalty. Justice is blind and no one is above it.

6. I have a right to life, liberty and pursuit of happiness, but there is no guarantee of equal results.

7. I work hard for what I have and I will share it with who I want to. Government cannot force me to be charitable.

8. It is not un-American for me to disagree with authority or to share my personal opinion.

9. The government works for me. I do not answer to them, they answer to me.

You Are Not Alone

If you agree with at least seven of those principles, then you are not alone.”

Gather your like-minded friends and family and join us at Rivals Sports Bar & Grill near the Fashion Square Mall on East Rio Road in Charlottesville on Friday, March 13th from 5PM-6PM. We’ll watch Glenn Beck unveil his plan to get our voices heard. See you there! (It’s a smoke-free, family-friendly environment) If you’re in the Charlottesville area, regardless of whether or not you can make it, join us at Charlottesville We Surround Them.

Imagine the Potential of One Life

My all-time favorite movie is Frank Capra’s “It’s a Wonderful Life” starring Jimmy Stewart and Donna Reed, primarily because of its premise. Each life has extreme potential and significance to the lives of those around them, impacting society in ways we can never fully fathom. If you haven’t seen the film yet, rent it today…in fact, go ahead and buy it…it’s a keeper.

Well, there’s a video clip put out by that speaks volumes concerning the potential of life, and I’d like to share it with you here:

As a side note, this ad was submitted to play during the SuperBowl and was rejected by NBC because it was too political in nature.

Fuel Efficient Vehicle Parking at New Library

Fuel Efficient Parking SignI just went to the new library yesterday for the first time and I was baffled by the “Fuel Efficient Vehicle Parking” signs reserving the spaces right in front of the door. There were about 3 or 4 6 of them (in addition to the 3 or 4 5 handicapped spaces). What’s up with that?

When I went inside and asked about it at the front desk, I was told it was because the buildings were “green”. I asked who qualified to park there…she said she wasn’t sure herself. People who drive “fuel efficient vehicles” would know if they qualify.

What about moms carrying a van (or minivan) load of kids? Or very pregnant women who have great difficulty getting in and out of their cars?

When I was coming out yesterday, my husband was inside checking out books and I was trying to get my 18 month old in his car seat while my 3 and 5 year old were supposed to be standing on the grass, but they were running back and forth next to the edge of the lot. Meanwhile there was another woman also parked across the lot toting a baby carrier and I thought I saw another child or two milling around her. I couldn’t tell if she was coming or going. All the “FEVP” spots were open so cars coming in drove right up to the front (thinking there were available spots, I suppose), but when they saw that they didn’t qualify to park there, they proceeded to find a spot around the other side of the building. Maybe it’s just me but I perceived this to be a safety concern.

To me this concept is absurd. This is a public facility and the idea that many men, women and children are being discriminated against because they don’t drive/ride in a “fuel efficient vehicle” and have to park at the back of the bus, uh, I mean lot, is wrong. It discourages non-fuel efficient vehicle owners from coming to the library. Is that the kind of message we want to send to our community?

What do you think?

UPDATE 01/15/09: I received a phone call this evening from the fellow who heads up the Department of Public Works. It seems a letter I wrote last night concerning this issue raised some eyebrows and folks are re-thinking the use of these parking spaces. I was told a formal written response may be forthcoming. I’ll keep you updated as to what I hear.

UPDATE 01/21/09: I received the following email this morning:

Dear Mrs. Wigal,

After conferring with John Robins, Dir. Of Public Works; Garland Nuckols, Dir. Of Buildings and Grounds; and Cyndi Hoffman, Library Manager, we have decided to leave two parking spots for energy efficient vehicles and label them as being for cars having over 30 mpg, to reduce confusion.  The other four parking spots will have new signs.   One will be labeled “Senior Parking,” two will be labeled “Reserved for parents with small children,” the final one will be labeled “For Expectant Mothers”.  These four new signs will replace the signs directly adjacent to the uncovered sidewalk extending from the Library entrance.  Until the new signs can be ordered and put in place, the present signs will remain in place. 

I hope that this will be more in line with the needs of the citizens of Fluvanna County.

Curtis Putnam
Energy Technician
Fluvanna County
Buildings and Grounds Deparment
P. O. Box 540
Palmyra, VA 22963
434-591-1925 phone
434-591-1924 fax

There has also been a healthy discussion on this subject concerning this issue at FluvannaOnline. It’s nice to see the County respond to input from her citizens. Now, if we can just get more citizens to share their input on various issues (such as out-of-control spending) in a respectful and responsible manner and have other factions of our County Government listen to her citizens, sincerely considering their concerns and responding in a swift and appropriate manner…


Vote Your Values on November 4th

Election Day is less than 48 hours away, and we as American Citizens, regardless of sex, race or creed have the right to vote in this country. I encourage you, if you are a registered voter, do whatever it takes to get to the polls on Tuesday and exercise that right. But before it comes time to pull the lever, PLEASE don’t just think about yourself in casting your vote.

Think about the future of our country. Think about the principles this country was founded on. Think about God and what He has blessed us with as a nation. Think about the lives that have been sacrificed for us so that we may enjoy our freedom. Think about who you can trust to lead this country. Put aside party politics…think like an American.

Put aside selfish desires…think about our fellow man and future generations.  Vote your values.

Marriage & Family as God Intended

FamilyI believe there is a God, and He’s the Creator of the universe. He’s the God of the Bible whom the Jews & Christians recognize as opposed to Allah or Buddha or some other god worshiped in other religions.

This country was founded with the understanding that the God of the Bible was the true God, and they based their decisions in forming this country on that understanding. Our Declaration of Independence even recognizes the “Creator” and the “inalienable rights of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” came from Him. This is what I believe is meant by America being founded as a Judeo-Christian nation.

All over the various memorials & monuments in our nation’s capitol as well as federal buildings you’ll find references to this same God. There is no doubt that “God” is very much a part of our country’s heritage, despite the desire of some to stomp his name out of the public square.

God declares homosexual activity sin. He states clearly in the Bible that it is wrong for a man to lie with a man as he would with a woman. What happened to Sodom & Gomorrah (being wiped off the face of the planet) was a result of sexual sin and following after other gods. The word “sodomy” comes from the name “Sodom”. Despite the fact that God clearly states sodomy to be sin, our culture has embraced that act as permissible.

Please understand, I am not attacking those who consider themselves homosexual and I don’t believe God despises those folks either. It’s the behavior that is wrong. God created man and woman in such a fashion that they would “fit” together and pro-create, bringing forth new life. It’s truly fascinating when you stop and think about it. We were given such an awesome power and responsibility to re-generate and populate the Earth.

The idea of a man performing a sexual act with another man goes totally against God’s plan for creation…just like a human performing a sexual act with an animal is detestable, so is same-sex human relations. It’s not what God intended.

Now the idea of a man and woman performing sexual acts outside of marriage also goes against what God intended. God’s plan is for a man and woman to come together in marriage…for life. His plan was for them to have children. By His design a child was to have both a mother and a father.

Somewhere along the line though, we decided to step out of God’s plan…to do the very things he told us not to do. Well, with every choice we make, there’s a consequence. When we make good choices, we enjoy good consequences. When we make bad choices, we suffer bad consequences.

When we buy a product such as a toaster and follow the manufacturer’s instructions performing the tasks the appliance was created to do, such as making toast, all goes well. But when we decide to make a smoothie using a toaster, going totally against what the manufacturer had in mind in making that product, the results are disastrous.

That’s what has happened to us. We as a human race have defied our Creator’s plan for us and wonder why everything is such a mess.

Now, I’m not saying that every man and every woman has to marry, and I’m not saying that every married couple has to have children. Certainly you can choose not to and all is well. The problem is we have embraced the idea that it is okay to have “marital relations” (sexual intercourse) outside the bounds of marriage between a man and a woman, and then we don’t want to be held accountable for the consequences of those actions.

One consequence of sexual intercourse is conceiving a child. Instead of facing up to that consequence when we don’t want or like it and allowing that baby to live, we have convinced ourselves it is okay to just snuff the child’s life out — that somehow we can “erase” the consequence of our actions. But what we’re actually doing is creating another consequence by performing a second action.

While we may envision what having a child can mean for us as women as well as what it could mean for the child and feel we are justified in making a decision about whether or not to kill that baby, we seldom consider the consequence for killing our own children. And I can assure you, the folks who are looking at us, women in crisis, with dollar signs in their eyes when we start considering the alternative of abortion, they are not giving us the full low-down on the consequences of that procedure. In all honesty, they really can’t…nobody can. But you ask a woman who has had an abortion, and well, it’s very telling. Feelings of remorse and guilt, shame and brokenness, and only God knows what else. But then there’s the consequence of the life snuffed out. He/she could have been the one that would have discovered the cure for cancer or performed some other monumental task or even a series of small tasks that would have altered the future of mankind.

Think of “It’s a Wonderful Life” and how the impact of George Bailey’s life influenced all of those around him when he was given the gift of seeing what the world would have been like had he never been born. If you’ve never seen that movie, I highly recommend it!

So now, here we are…you and I might never consider killing our babies despite whatever negative consequence might result in having these children, but what about our family members? our friends? our co-workers? our neighbors? our fellow Americans?

Is it “right” for anyone to kill babies? If so, then why do we bother having a law forbidding murder? If we as Americans have the right to kill babies at two months in utero, or 5 months in utero, or 8 months in utero, or leave them to die after being born alive as a result of a botched abortion (all because we either see how their life is going to affect us or we’ve lost hope in their future), then why not give us the right to kill them at 3 months old (when we are sleep deprived), or 9 months old (when we’re suffering from post-partum depression), or 2 years old (when we’re stressed out by their defiance), or 12 years old (when they frustrate the heck out of us by their apparent lack of common sense), or 15 years old (when it’s obvious that they’re never going to amount to anything good)?

Do you see my point? Killing babies is wrong no matter how we try to justify it. Many a person has risen above his/her horrible childhood experiences to live incredibly victorious lives. Yes, some kids end up in lousy households, raised by incompetent parents or living in atrocious circumstances, but the answer is not “kill them so they won’t suffer”. If we are really concerned about the outcome of these “unwanted” children, then we should work to make their lives better, not annihilate them before birth.

As for legally redefining marriage to include anything other than one man and one woman, that would totally destroy our country. I’m not saying two people of the same sex cannot love each other. I’m not saying they cannot enjoy the same right to life, liberty and pursuit of happiness. Of course, they can. If they want to live together, then that’s their prerogitive. If they want to buy property together or obtain medical insurance, that’s completely lawful. But to say they should experience the same “family” benefits as those who are married or to equate themselves with a traditional marriage is not right. God certainly opposes the idea.

I feel it is necessary for laws to be passed in this country to protect life and marriage in order to save our society from ruin. We as a nation have already slaughtered more babies since the Supreme Court Roe v. Wade decision than all the lives lost in every war ever fought in America since our nation’s inception. That’s staggering.

We have already ripped apart the fabric of our society with rampant divorce and children born out of wedlock…single-parent families struggling to make things work, teenage pregnancies, runaway children, etc. We need to restore this nation to what God intended for His creation. Men and women committed in marriage for life, having children and teaching them to revere God. When we work in conjunction with God’s plan, we enjoy the benefits of a healthy family.

I believe our country needs to recognize and revere God once again. I pray we will.

For more information on marriage and family, I recommend checking out Focus on the Family. For more on the sanctity of life, check out the National Right to Life.